Miracle of self love …part 2
Mirrors are not the only things that show us ourselves. Every person that we interact with is a mirror for us to see, to really see, who we truly are, if we are courageous enough to look and then listen to that message in our own heart
In any relationship, be it friend, colleague, partner, parent, or romantic, we are always in a state of reflecting each other.
For years I struggled with this concept……….How can a person who presents in my life with arrogance, or obnoxious behaviours, perhaps a person who is egoic or angry, be reflecting aspects of me?
If we can recognise these traits and we become reactive, then we have it in us. Some of us may have grown up, transcended, shifted through some very ugly traits, and healed them in ourselves, but the recognition is still there.
This is where the true self love comes riding through life like a knight in shining armour. We have all sorts of traits, patterns, beliefs and conditionings running our lives unconsciously and subconsciously, let alone what we already of know about ourselves and are keeping suppressed for fear of not being liked.
When we choose to listen to the voice of the heart, that place of silence and wisdom, we learn to accept all parts of ourselves, then we can allow others to be. Once that depth of understanding is arrived at, the people who present in life “seem” to be changing. As we move forward we know it is not them that are changing, it is ourselves. The more we drop into self-love, the more we allow others to be, and then our whole world begins to change.
As soon as we stop listening to our inner world, as soon as we disconnect from the truth of who we are, when we compromise our self-love, in exchange for keeping the peace, to perhaps keep a relationship alive, to please someone else, to try it someone else’s way not from heart decision but a mind decision, to surrender your personal truth and power……..you are on the road to losing you.
Then one day that inner voice, that gently whispers to us about the next step that guides us through life, becomes this scream of pain, angst, unhappiness and that silent scream gets reflected to us constantly as we go to battle with the people who we think are ‘triggering” us , or pushing our buttons. We believe and judge that they have issues, when in actual fact, they are showing us what we are not seeing or addressing in our self.
The person that we often blame, those closest to us, have done nothing to us at all, we have adjusted ourselves to them and we get mighty uncomfortable.
Then an ‘out of the blue’ a situation will happen that will shatter the tension, break the illusion and allow you to get real with yourself.
What I have witnessed and observed over many years of working with people is that, no relationship falls apart because of one person doing the perceived ’wrong’ thing. Every single breakdown or break through (of illusion) has been about one or both people, not being truthful to themselves, not listening to their own inner guidance, not acting on their intuition and not seeing that what they find annoying, irritating, frustrating in their loved one, is in fact, what they have going on in themselves.
The questions that my friend had the courage to ask ( see part 1) when the relationship cracked, allowed the direct road to the truth of the matter, so that immediate closure and healing became the only option. A closure that was filled with respect, self-love, understanding and complete ownership of all aspects within that persons heart.
As this person has now reclaimed self-respect and self-love, it can only be reflected to the other person in the relationship that has failed, as a guiding light for the healing journey that needs to be travelled, should they choose that as their way to reclaim self-love.
The saying………’the truth will set you free” has never been as evident as it is right now. However you must apply it to life, for true freedom and change.
Drop into your heart, listen to its language, ask yourself where any trait you see in another is in you, any action that another person shows that irritates you, where is that in you, and follow the intuition of your spirit. Listen to your hearts guidance, forgive yourself, accept your part in the whole story,.
You are what you see in every other person………Choose to see the beauty, truth, compassion, acceptance, love and allowing in others and know that it is you. That is Self Love in action.
Namaste
